Overcome The Lies We Tell Ourselves

What do you have to overcome? What is holding you back from your next big thing. Seriously? We have so many tools at our disposal, resources and information at our fingertips. Somehow we lack joy in what we’re pursuing or struggles to get accomplished the one thing we have our sights set on. For me, I know exactly what is holding me back. That is why I am learning every day how to fight against it. I can publish my book!

Book Cover for Renewal By Fire
10 Years Later… Still Not Published

The above image may look like a promotion for a book. The truth is that it isn’t even published. After nearly ten years, I still haven’t done any work to get this published. The problem is that early in my writing journey, I began to believe and listen to certain things that were said to me to protect me, and fuel me to work harder, but instead I absorbed it and told myself I wasn’t good enough.

That is the thing about rejection though, It hurts, even when it’s constructive. It seems to hurt a lot less when we tell it to ourselves. There is no difference however in telling yourself. “It’s not ready, it’s not good enough.” Then letting other people tell you. “That’s terrible, you are not ready to publish.” It just feels better to say it to yourself. Then no one can judge you for producing something that is not worth sharing.

Overcoming Obstacles Through Your Journey

Writing is a continuous journey, one that you never really stop taking and one that looks so much better at the end then at the starting line. It’s like a marathon, but keeping the work hidden is like practicing for a race without ever stepping onto the track. You are not going to overcome your obstacles by treating it like a sprint. You have to tackle your self doubt and self rejection head on. This year, my phrase to myself has been:

Saying it is not ready is rejecting myself before allowing anyone else the chance to like my work.


I have only deflated myself further, but saying that one phrase is making all the difference. When I come up to submitting an email to a blog or publication, to solicit an idea and I begin to doubt myself, I force myself to hit send. What’s the worse that can happen if someone doesn’t like my idea, or my writing style. It will still go unpublished. If I reject it before I even send it, the outcome will be the same as the thing I fear the most, so why not try for a chance at a different outcome.

Rhett and Hunter standing outside In-n-Out Fast Food in California

Be Bold, Be Loud, Be Wrong

Sometimes it can seem like a lot to overcome, that self-doubt or that fear of rejection. There is nothing wrong with rejection. When you stop yourself from the “pain” for fear of it, you rob yourself the chance to learn. You also steal any chance at the opportunity to succeed. I think about my fiancé, who at least to me is the cutest guy I know.

He also may be the most talented guy I know, and as I’ve tried to encourage him to take big strides towards his success, and to step out and be bold. The problem though is that my own mirror dangles in front of my face reminding me that his opportunities are afforded to him by his great courage to take them. I am my own worst enemy, but I know the talent I possess. I also can share complex problems through stories and imagine whole worlds of people on a nightly basis.

What I lack is the courage to trust myself, and that may be exactly what is tripping you up. In fact I have a feeling that if you’ve read this far, you are in my shoes. So let me share this last thought just for you, if you know you are good enough, then you probably are.

Overcome Your Doubt

I have found in my life that the only people with the natural confidence in their abilities to achieve something difficult, like writing a book, composing a beautiful piece of music, crafting a beautiful picture are either super talented and are struggling on their journey of focusing that talent, or super delusional, in which case this won’t even phase them. Such a small amount of people have delusions of their own worth because most of us hide the things we like about ourselves. It is more about that power to overcome our own insecurities that separates the successful artist and the struggling hobbyist. We are fully aware of what the world can do to our self-esteem and self-worth.

If you are holding yourself back, remind yourself that you’re good at what you love, and you know deep down that you’re good at it. The rejection will come, but it doesn’t have to come from you, and it certainly won’t ever come from me!

Publish – How to Overcome

So where can we start overcoming our obstacles? I can’t speak for every reader, because you may be struggling with something I have no talent in. If you are a writer though, I want to share some of the best resources I have found in my own writing journey.

My number one always is NaNoWriMo. If you don’t know who they are, you won’t regret finding them now because their tools and resources are some of the best free resources out there. To learn more click here.

I can’t believe I am even sharing this, because this is one of my favorite known secrets. Freedom with Writing is an amazing tool for learning about some of the paid writing opportunities that are available out there. Don’t neglect this opportunity. It could make all of the difference in your writing journey. To learn more click here.

Use these tools to overcome your fear. If you don’t feel like you can take on a manuscript, write an article. If you need little victories along the way in writing your manuscript, lean on the proven methods. You have everything you need inside yourself to accomplish something great!

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